Advice
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Savage Love: The Harm in Hiding HIV Status
I could really use your advice. I recently found my boyfriend’s HIV meds while I was house-sitting for him and…
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Savage Love: Should Parents Have Wild Sex with Kids in the House?
We’re an adventurous, bisexual, non-monogamous, opposite-sex couple with a teenage kid living in Europe. We don’t really struggle with finding…
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Savage Love: A Web of Relationship Drama
One of my very close friends, a lesbian, has been married for a couple of years now. It’s been nothing…
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Savage Love: Working Out the Kink
I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a…
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Savage Love: Digging Up Private Messages From the Grave
My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had 12 great years together. He was also…
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Savage Love: Obligations and Mistaken Identities
I was dumped in August by a guy I was seeing for 10 months. He told me that he wants…
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Savage Love: Quad Relationships Aren’t For Squares
I’m a thirty-something gay man married to a thirty-something gay man. For almost two years, we’ve been seeing another pair…
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Savage Love: A Sex Worker and a Missed Connection
Married guy here. I’m 33, the wife is 31. Our fifth anniversary is next month but we’ve been together for…
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Savage Love: Red Flags Are Flying
I’m a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light,…
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Savage Love: All Choked Up
I’m a 29-year-old straight woman in Pennsylvania. My question has to do with choking and consent. I’ve had two experiences…
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Savage Love: Making Your List and Checking It Twice
I’m a cis male in my late twenties. I’ve recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable,…
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Savage Love: The Mastery of Marriage… But Why Bother?
I’m a 38-year-old bi woman who has been sleeping with a married male coworker for the last eight months. We’re…
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Savage Love: It’s a Female-Led Relationship, Now Act Like It
My wife asked me to write to you about our situation. We’ve been married for 15 years. I am 50…
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Savage Love: Are Some People Hopelessly Bad at Sex?
I don’t want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I…
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Savage Love: Power Players and Problematic Porn
Here’s a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor…
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Savage Love: Spit and Polish
I’m a 31-year-old cis bisexual woman. I’m hetero-romantic and in a monogamish relationship with a man. We play with other…
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