Keep It 100
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Keep It 100: Self Reflection in the Time of the ‘Rona
Dear Shameika, I am at my wits’ end. How in the world do you find your passion? I am 38 years old and I can’t think of one thing I can see myself doing for the rest of my life. I love things but I guess I don’t have the…
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Keep It 100: A Favor for a Favor
Dear Shameika, I am in desperate need of a career change. I am currently working in the healthcare field, but not having any luck finding my dream job in television news. I have always wanted to work in television, and so I thought that reaching out to my connections on…
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Keep It 100: Dating Into Your 30s
Dear Shameika, I’m at my wits end. I want to get married one day. I’m in my early 40s and, well, dating is tiring, because I can’t seem to find the one that meets everything I have on my list. Do you think women of a certain age, like over…
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Keep It 100: RSVP For One
Dear Shameika, I just really don’t like my best friend’s boyfriend. Two years ago, my friend had an affair with a co-worker and her marriage ended, but she continued the relationship with the co-worker. At first, I tried to get to know him and invited them both to parties. He’s…
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Keep It 100: Take ‘Em to Church
Dear Shameika, As a woman in her late 30s, it’s been hard finding quality men to date. So, I finally met a guy. He likes me and I like him. He checks off a lot of boxes on my list. He has a career, goals, is consistent and a host…
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Keep It 100: Invasion of Privacy
Dear Shameika, I’m a 45-year-old man that was dating a 40-year-old woman for a little over a year. I realized early on that this would never go anywhere because she wouldn’t let her wall down and was really surface — only caring about superficial things. I never felt like I…
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Don’t Bank on Your Ex
Dear Shameika, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few months ago after a two-year relationship. His family doesn’t quite seem to understand this, despite one of them reaching out previously to tell me to leave him because of his controlling ways. His family members — especially his aunts —…
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Swimming in the Gene Pool
Dear Shameika, I’m in my late 30s, and after years of being single and dateless in the Queen City, I finally got asked out by a 50-something-year-old man a year ago … and then he ghosted me. Fast-forward to this July, we ran into each other again and made plans…
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Keep It 100: It’s Not Them, It’s You
Dear Shameika, I moved to the Charlotte area three years ago and have found dating to be super difficult. I have yet to go on any dates while living here. I’m in my mid-40s, so how do I meet a “grown-ass man” when I’m an introvert? My friends won’t hook…
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Filtered Foolishness
Dear Shameika, I’m a 40-something male who sometimes uses dating apps to meet what might be my future wife (Hey, a guy can hope, right?). What I’ve found lately is that with the rise of apps like Snapchat and Instagram, it seems more women are applying filters to their profile…
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Keep It 100: The Newly Single Life
Dear Shameika, I could use some help. I just had a 2-year relationship end unexpectedly. I don’t really know why we broke up because she gave me a very vague, open-ended reason for calling it quits. Here’s the thing: I had just purchased the engagement ring and was planning a…
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Keep It 100: The Emperor’s New Clothes
Dear Shameika, My guy is awesome in so many areas; he’s supportive, considerate, passionate, giving and more. I’m talking damn near Harlequin romance/fairy tale levels here! But one area where he isn’t so awesome is in the fashion department. Whew! Now don’t get me wrong, his clothes aren’t embarrassing or…
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Keep It 100: Wedding Etiquette
Dear Auntie Shameika (Can I call you that?), I recently got married in January 2019, but we sent out invitations in July 2018. Everyone followed directions with the RSVP except for my husband Jerry’s brother Carl. I reached out to ask Carl if he was coming and he responded…
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